Culture! This is what makes us Africans and this is what makes us unique. Our home, our heritage, our lifestyle, is what differentiates us from others. Though other people may see us as barbaric yet we open our hearts to love even after receiving unfair treatments that separates us from our homes, brothers, and lovers that have become a part of the western world without any knowledge of who they use to be and who they are supposed to be. Lost like a coin thrown into the sea, they have forgotten our traditions; they have embraced a life different from what our ancestors gave us. A little look at some of our cultures that are gradually going into extension. A closer look at some of the daily behaviours that no longer follows the African tradition
In the Yoruba tribe of Nigeria, it has always been an abomination for a child to wake up in the morning and step out without greeting his/her parents. This is the same for Igbo tribe and some other tribes too. A male child in the Yoruba land prostrate with his chest touching the ground to greet elders of the land and his parents. While the female kneels, for her parents and elders as a sign of respect for them. It is forbidden for a child to stretch forth his/her hand to greet an elderly person saying, "How are you." This is not something limited to the Yoruba other tribes practice it too.
The Yoruba tradition prevents any female child called omidan/sisi from getting involved in any sexual activity with any man before getting married. Virginity known as ibale is seen as an ultimate gift that should be given to the husband on the night of their wedding, which is not white wedding from the beginning. The traditional marriage is the original marriage while every other thing is seen as mere activities. Marriage is called igbeyawo in the Yorubaland. Prior to marriage, the parent of the male child carries out the responsibility of going to the parents of the lady to show their interest in her. This process allows them to know if the lady is betrothed to anyone or if she is free for marriage. The parent also does all research concerning family background before going to the woman’s parents. They tell the parent they have found a flower (ododo) in the house and they are very much interested in the flower. The parent of the lady would welcome them, offer them something to eat and then call the lady to confirm if she knows them or not. If she claims to know them, they will tell the parents to come back within a specific period for a list of materials they will have to bring for traditional marriage called idana. The list would include bride price called owo ori. Follow us next week for the conclusive part. We will discuss what happens on the night of a Yoruba wedding according to an old tradition.
Mercy J, a native Nigerian and a reputable and passionate writer. Mercy loves to write especially when it comes to things relating to her country. Mercy also does writing of all other kinds of subjects, and she also loves coming up with something unique and this makes her very good at creative thinking.